Tutoring a Baby to Become an 'English Gentleman' – Does It Justify the Cost?

Child education concept
The organization behind the advertisement states that what looks like "extravagance or peculiarity" is actually "purposeful investment in early learning".

"Parents residing in north London is looking for an exceptional and qualified educator to guide their youngest child on his early path to becoming an British gentleman."

When reading this listing, you might easily miss the wording "first-steps" as mere a turn of phrase.

But, it may be the crucial aspect of this distinctive job advert, as it attempts to find a teacher for a 12-month-old.

Numerous of applications have since been sent in since the anonymous family advertised their request for the £180,000 per year tutor, who needs to be "an exceptional individual".

During the past few weeks, the advert has received interest across the news, with several asking why?

Innovative Idea

The CEO, chief executive of a global tutoring firm, which is helping the family in their search, stated that in spite of early scepticism, he considered the concept "forward-looking", and "advanced".

When he spoke with the family, he mentioned they appreciated the unconventional aspect of their request, and how early in age their son is.

But, they explained that they "didn't want to wait any longer" to get a tutor, as they had held off until their elder sibling was five, and by that age "cultural conditioning had already become established".

What precisely did the family mean by "cultural predisposition"?

It's "comprehensive", the expert responded. "The manner you eat, the way you speak".

He stated the elder child had absorbed "very nuanced, unspoken signals" from the family, and had adopted their cultural norms. The family informed him they did not want the same situation to recur with their infant.

The strategy: To engage a British tutor, who needs to speak with Received Pronunciation, to influence the baby from the very start.

Tutoring discussion
The education firm say the post has sparked a larger discussion about how parents view education, privilege and the role of family background in education.

Subtle Influence

"A lot of the learning at the outset here is rather acquired indirectly," said the expert.

It's via this subtle influence that the family are expecting the child will adopt the UK customs they want to cultivate.

Adam noted the tutor needed to be an individual who went to "prestigious academies – comparable categories of schools as the family aspire to send their son to".

"The instructor just has to be the appropriate candidate, they'll be carrying out things they aren't even aware they're doing, just naturally," he added.

Money No Object

The family explained to the expert the chosen tutor should ideally also have knowledge of or interest in horse riding, alpine skiing, the arts and music so as to shape the child in a wide range of interests.

Additionally though, he stated the family wanted the tutor to sign up the child on a variety of classes so the child would be "horseback riding and picking up an tool by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's minds, guiding their son grow into a "UK sophisticate" will result in accomplishment and provide access.

"Taking into account the rights and wrongs of that, because it's definitely a status symbol," he comments.

Yet, in spite of all this guidance in "Britishness", could the child pick up so-called cultural influence from the globally influenced family he lives with regardless?

"Yes", replied the CEO. "They understand this could fail, but they've merely embraced the perspective of, 'we should try and let's go as early as we can', because the expense of it is not a concern," he said.

Impractical

Several in the education sector who share these reservations.

Peter Cui, head and founder of an educational organization, who provides personal educators, wrote that "the development of adopting dual cultures, or actually, becoming oneself, is something that must be lived into, not manufactured."

Peter explained that he had relocated from Asia to the Britain at the age of seven, and had been educated understanding and living two backgrounds. He continued to learn at the University of Cambridge.

Peter Cui portrait
Peter Cui was the first person hailing from mainland China to be selected to the post of Financial Officer of the university debating society.

"The idea that one individual can serve as a living vessel of UK identity, a person who can possibly impart the characteristics of a British gentleman upon a one-year-old child, appears optimistic and unrealistic," he wrote.

"Based on my background, engaging a quintessentially English tutor from infancy will not automatically achieve the goal they desire.

"I wasn't provided with such a figure, and nevertheless I have been fortunate enough to experience many of the opportunities they desire for their son."

He continued: "The reality is, personal identity should not be imposed from the outside influences; it must be embraced, and it must be internally driven."

Buying Britishness

Certainly, Britishness is something the CEO thinks can be taught – and marketed.

"I think the fact that the world views us in this regard is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

Crystal Hartman
Crystal Hartman

A software engineer and tech writer passionate about AI ethics and open-source projects, with over a decade of industry experience.